How to change yourself?
We are surrounded by hatred and anger. We too often began to feel discomfort. But, after all our world is not only those people who surround us, it's each of us! It's no secret to anyone that you need to start, first of all, when you want to change the world! Everybody knows about this, but everyone thinks that it's not in him. But this is not so. All our problems are born within us.
So, how to change yourself? We are all - notorious and insecure people! At least, most. Nobody wants to believe in it. But it is so. If it's good to think about and look behind the curtain, for which we have never allowed ourselves to look before, we will understand this. Our whole life passes in a desire to prove something to someone! We are trying to prove to everyone that we are experts in any field, that we are beautiful, interesting, talented and capable of much. We try to please, we want to gain recognition, to confirm our greatness and uniqueness. Why? - Because we ourselves do not believe in it! Yes, we do not believe that we are the best, and we want that to prove this to us.
We begin with changes in appearance
In the struggle for the pedestal our life passes. Moreover, we are confident that the external signs are especially important in this struggle. But, how to change yourself externally - all fashion publications constantly impose something new for us. And we, openly or secretly from all, try to follow these trends. But, not because we really want this, but only to enjoy it. Our men spend long evenings in gyms, eat dubious drugs to increase muscle volume. Our women learn all the tips on how to properly dress and look after themselves. But this is nonsense, compared to what some of us are turning into after numerous plastic surgeries!
Yes, indeed, it happens that a person withchildhood feels uncomfortable about some specific external sign. Everything else in his body suits him, but he is very worried about, for example, an excessively large nose. You can decide on the operation, but only if the nose is really very large, and he does not like you, not fashion magazines. There are many adult girls who very happily live with zero breast size. They are successful among men, and if they have any problems, they are not exactly related to their breasts. And other, very beautiful women, constantly do all sorts of operations, turning into witches. They all the time feel that something is wrong in them. Although, in reality, it's only that they react too strongly to disapproving criticism, which eclipses, in their opinion, all the compliments!
We change the attitude to ourselves
But, is it possible, through constant reworkingyourself, change people's opinions, how to change attitudes toward yourself? Here operations and gyms will not exactly help. We are all very naive, and we believe in everything that we are told. We are waiting for praise and compliments, and in every possible way we try to avoid unflattering reviews and, even worse, gossip behind our backs. But, is this correct?
If you understand, you can understand that far fromevery person who compliments us really loves and respects us. Not every man who cares for a woman intends to spend with her all his life. Maybe it's so, that it is important for him to achieve it, he is interested in the game. We admire colleagues. But why are we sure that they can not do this just to help us climb the corporate ladder? As for criticism. Yes, indeed, sometimes it is worth thinking about. But such criticism is said personally to you and without the use of rough turns. But more often we come across another criticism. Someone openly, at all, makes us rude comments, or cheekily discusses behind us your life and us. Why do not we understand that such people see what we do not see ?! They are not comfortable to feel our superiority, and in this way they just try to humiliate us and extol us in the eyes of others and in our eyes! Not everyone is aware of this, but that's always the case.
Do we need to change
Now about how you can change yourself. Of course, in the first place, you need to evaluate yourself objectively. In fact, there are situations when we are wrong. These are the situations when, in pursuit of approval, and in attempts to exalt ourselves, we humiliate others. Nobody wants to be in a society where he is always accused of something. Some people respond to our disapproval with attempts to provoke our enthusiasm. They try to please us, and we are flattered. But also these people give up quickly, because they do not want to feel like a nonentity!
To know how to change yourself completely, the mostthe main thing is to understand that we do not need to change for someone. We are already unique and should not need to confirm this. Moreover, there is nothing to achieve recognition by force. We will be loved only when we ourselves love ourselves, and stop trying to prove to everyone that we deserve it, while not believing in our own worth.