Kumovya are the second parents of the child
To understand what nepotism is, you needlook into the history of the Slavic peoples. Even before the arrival of Christianity, it was a people's tradition, custom, twinning, which later were endowed with the present value of the church, as well as many folk rites. After all carols, carnival, search of a flower of a fern, jumping over a fire on a holiday of Ivan Kupala take roots since ancient times and have been dated for Christian holidays. But still: what does the word "nepotism" mean in the Christian tradition? Kumovya is, first of all, relatives, though not by blood, but by the Mystery of Baptism.
Relation is based on the relationship between the godparentfather and godmother with the parents of the godson and between them. Many centuries the traditions of nepotism developed, now they have entered our life, and we do not think about their essence and origin. Some church ordinances become an unshakable law, and just do not pay attention to other societies.
There is always a sexual relationship between the kuma (kum) andthe parent of the child was considered a mortal sin. Never a godfather could become a husband with his wife or a pregnant woman. A great sin was also the renunciation of nepotism. There are many other prohibitions in the rules of spiritual kinship.
Clicks and acquisitions
It must be said that in Russia and in Ukraine it is alwayswere called (clicked) cousins, counter (striae). They were appointed when the child was dying in the family. Parents were invited to christen the next newborn baby first people they met on the way.
In future relations, the counter-comer has always beenmore honorable than invited. But even more respect was for the otkupnuyu kumu, he was invited, when the children were very often sick. Re-rite of baptism in the church, of course, was not carried out, but there was another - a home ritual. Otkupnye kumnovya took the sick child from the hands of parents who passed it to the open door of the house - through the threshold. The kid after the ritual of the transfer had to be changed into everything new. Subsequently, the foreclosed parents replaced the godparents, whose rights have since been ignored.
Since that moment, the family had two kuma. They also honored him and did not interrupt his relationship with him.
Still there is a double, and even triple, nepotism, which is common in Western Ukraine, where it is customary to invite several pairs of godparents.
Duties of Godparents
In many regions of Ukraine, the Kumovs are stillspiritual guides for their godson. Unfortunately, in our time it is accepted that the godparents should simply present their godson with gifts and take no part in his upbringing and development. If you look at how parents choose their godparents for a baby, you can clearly notice the tendency of parents' interest. But the most important rule when choosing a godfather for a child is that there must be believers who are aware of responsibility and are proud of the trust they have provided. They must give the child the foundations of the Christian religion. Kumovya are guardians who, in the event of the death of their parents, must take care of their own godchildren.
Nowadays nepotism has acquired some othertraditions, now more everyday than spiritual trends are observed. Kumovya are friends who want to be related. New relatives often meet together to celebrate holidays, play weddings, and just talk more - they are friends of families. Be sure to send congratulations on their birthday to the cronies, in the age of technical progress they connect television, radio broadcasting, and mobile communications to congratulations. For Slavic peoples, the theme of nepotism is an inexhaustible source of sayings, anecdotes, and creativity - it is a storehouse of folk wisdom and folklore.